Holding Space for Human Emotion

When I'm coaching - there are very often tears. From both women and men

So far everyone has apologised in some way, saying 
"I'm so sorry;" followed by something like "I don't know what's come over me;" or "this is so unlike me."

The first thing I say is "there is no need to apologise, I'm good with tears".
And it's true. Holding space for someone as they cry is a privilege. It represents the deepest circle of trust.

So often tears though are perceived as a sign of weakness, and something to hide. 

But in reality, it takes great
- strength to connect with your emotions (rather than pushing them down)
- courage to acknowledge how you feel.
- vulnerability to share this with someone else.

Tears are one of our deepest forms of expression. 
- They show we care 
- That sometimes we get it wrong. 
- That it hurts.

But tears also help us heal. To get back up. To learn. To try again.

Tears show that we are human, not that we are broken. 
And that's the truth.

So if anyone needs to shed a few tears, my door is always open. Whoever you are.
And I will admire you for it.

p.s. I might add there is also a lot of laughter in my coaching sessions as well!